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Sometime ago I gave the social networking site Facebook a break, it was around the same time I decided to give my marriage a break! At that time I had 556 friends and that included my husband! At that time I considered him a friend, a different kind of friend than a facebook friend obviously, but a friend nonetheless.

My very first blog disclosed that instead of planning for my 1st yr anniversary, I would be planning for a divorce. Obviously not one of my highlights! The anniversary day has come and gone, but with anticipation of somberness and that it was! This day was impacted by the sudden illness of my father and facebook friend #556 (i.e the husband) decided to have me served with divorce papers at the hospital where my father laid ill. I was filled with so many emotions, not upset about being served, but rather angered at the audacity of serving me while I’m dealing with such a pressing issue as my fathers illness. And in case you’re asking yes, friend #556 knew my dad had fallen ill. One thing I can give him credit for is his endless ability to make any situation worse, and this was one of those times!

Today, I chose the title Unfriend, (only a real word in Facebook world), because I logged in after a 6 months hiatus and unfriended #556. I had much purpose of logging in, and I didn’t want the joy of my return to be ruined! So I unfriended him, with a sort of vindication. The process was much deserved however, because he has done so many things that FRIENDS just don’t do! Friend– the title that one should bear first if you are a lover of a wife, a husband, a sister, a brother, basically any person of an intimate nature. So isn’t it befitting to unfriend someone when they violate the first rule of friendship which is love? When you take something so free, so unending and attempt to trap it like a firefly, isn’t severance the best solution? I think so! It’s funny because I don’t think #556, understands what it means to be a friend, or even what it means to have a true friend! So it baffles me when I think about how I entered contractually with him emotionally and legally! I don’t remember there being a shotgun at the wedding!

Either way today was a cyber world unfriending! A millisecond was all it took! Unfortunately, the legal unfriending will take a little bit longer! I never thought I would be brought to such thoughts, but both processes are well deserved!

#556 you have been unfriended!



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2 thoughts on “UNFRIEND

  1. staciegh on said:

    I am very sorry about what you are going through emotionally and personally. Relationships are tricky, especially when you think you know and love someone. I think “unfriending” him on FB is a very BIG step into the right direction. We don’t know each other, but after reading your blog it touched me. I’ve been married for 13 years and consider him my best friend, you deserve to married to YOUR best friend too. I will defiantly keep up with you and I wish you all the best on getting stronger with each step of your journey.

  2. I am sitting here planning my divorce lonely and upset. When will he come home? Does he care for her more than me? What did I do to deserve this lonely feeling after taking a vow? Where I serve him is irrelevant, in fact I wish to serve my spouse during Thanksgiving. I’m choosing this day because I want him to be thankful I haven’t lost my mind! The “cyber unfriending” may have given you the same liberation it gave your spouse. Either way it sounds like you two were cruel to each other. You gave the marriage a break and he decided to end it. Good luck to you in your divorce proceedings as he may be just as upset as I am

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